I never in my teen years got grounded from using the phone. Taking away my TV would have been torture but the loss of phone privileges? It wouldn’t have hurt the least little bit.
Since I realized I was living on the spectrum, many truths about myself have seen the light of day. Past moments over the years from childhood to present now make sense in light of my diagnosis. I see myself and my actions through a different light.
I am anxious on the phone because I struggle with verbal communication. It is hard enough in person, but on the phone without the visual of the person’s face, it is even tougher. I am an “ace” when it comes to written communication (e-mail). People who are used to corresponding with me via email or via the post office might be surprised about this. On the phone and in person, the words don’t always come out right because I don’t have the luxury of time to process what I’m hearing and come up with an adequate response.
People are hard for me to hear over the phone. Since I have the habit of asking people to repeat themselves in person in order to process what they have said, it is no surprise that over the phone is a bigger challenge. At least with face-to-face communication, I have the visual of the person’s facial expressions and their hand gestures. I miss a lot of details because my brain can’t keep up and doesn’t hear all the words.
People tend to talk faster on the phone and don’t appreciate my pausing to process their words and respond. However, I need time to think before I speak; otherwise, my response will probably be one that I’ll kick myself over and over again, rehearsing what I should have said. The entire thing is phone madness!
So if someone wants my best response, e-mail is your best shot!