I plead guilty to being as stubborn as an old mule. I don’t remember a specific time but I am pretty sure my Mom has informed me of this and probably more than once over the years dating back to childhood.
I moved in with my Mom after I moved back to my hometown after I retired. Since my Mom’s hip replacement surgery, my chore list has increased many times over. No complaints about that since I don’t like “idle” time. The thing is I don’t imitate my Mom’s way of doing chores. Such as the laundry. Unlike the way my Mom does it, and probably how most people do it, I carry in my arms the laundry to the washer and the dryer rather than toting the load in my Mom’s laundry basket. She did ask why not use the basket, but I refused to give in. So even though she scratches her head at me, I persist in doing it MY way!
I don’t mind amending MY way if I alone discover a different way of how to do whatever. It’s similar to a mistake not bothering me as much provided I am the one who discovers the mistake. If someone catches my goof and points it out to me, it feels every bit like a punch in the stomach. I will not soon forget not only the mistake but the humiliation I felt when it was pointed out to me.
I occasionally go on vacation when my brother and sister-in-law do. They go wherever and I have the privilege of hanging out at their home in another state where I am surrounded by hill country all to myself with their three lovely dogs. That’s what I call the ideal “Aspie” vacation. On some of my dogsitting trips, my brother asked me to pick vegetables from their small gardens. He always leaves a map and drawings knowing I might not know a zucchini from a pepper. Smart fellow, my brother.
I would pick what I thought was ripe enough to leave the vine and carry them by hand back to the house, wash them, leave them on the window sill to dry, and then later put in the fridge. After doing it this way during several dog-sitting visits, I figured out there was an easier way of doing it. I noticed a pail on the back porch area and that’s what got me to thinking of another way. Instead of carrying the veggies, I could take the pail with me when I went garden shopping and carry the veggies back in the pail. That way I might not drop any from the garden to the house and cut down on trips.
Oh, I did wonder why I hadn’t thought of using a pail sooner but oh, well, it gave me a good chuckle at myself. Sometimes it takes me a while to figure things out that to others comes natural-like. Since I had the luxury of being alone, there was no one around to suggest why not use the pail. If there had been, I would not have welcomed the suggestion. I might have reacted with stubbornly continuing to hand carry. Or, I would have relented and felt miserable than someone had to tell me to something I should have known in the first place.
If there is a hard way to do a task, the odds are better I’ll find it before I stumble onto the easiest. Whenever possible, I work alone in my own way. No backseat driver required unless I am desperate enough to ask for one! If my thinking cap comes up with an easier way, great. If not, well, I just took a longer highway to get the job done.